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Or knowing precisely what point people are attempting to make five words into the first sentence and then politely having to sit there and wait for the next five minutes while they laboriously meander their way through it.
How about being a witness to a conversation between two others and you can tell neither of them understand the point the other is trying to make.
Bonus points for when they actually agree with each other but just haven’t put together what the other is saying.
I love that actually. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does I go “hold on, A, you’re trying to say x, but B understands y, whereas B tries to say v and you understand w”
Always leads to the most flabbergasted double stare when they realize I’m 100% right and they’d have talked past each other for hours.
Sometimes with an undertone of “but I wanted a fight” by one of them.
This is a dangerous “skill” to have, though. Very easy to slip into the trap of assuming you know what they’re talking about, only to have them end on a different point than you expected and then suddenly you’re responding to a point they never actually made
I can’t do it. I try so hard but I interrupt every time and then they say “that’s not what I mean will you let me finish” then I have to sit quietly while it was exactly what they meant.
It’s critically important to develop patience here in order to deal with people getting older and taking this to the next level
My mom is a great person whom I dearly love but she’s fallen into the stereotype of old people rambling. Nothing is a simple question or statement anymore. It’s always a long meandering story with lots of detours
I walk into a room and hear things. I hear lights and fridges, heaters, cellphones vibrating on floors above me. It’s a cacafony of endless clicks and ticks and humms and beeps and whirs that seemingly no one else notices.
Cats make good sounds though. The merps and meeps and jorps and mreeps and mrops and purrs are nice.
The worst is the whine from cheap chargers and power banks. Ive resorted to buying a few of my coworkers new/ better chargers in order to give myself some peace.
I have double powers as I’m neurodivergent and grew up in a highly traumatic household so you learn to pick on tiny signs that it’s about to pop off. Feel my life is fight or flight at all times.
give an example?
Dudes, why all the downvotes?
Thats pretty difficult as its almost like intuition. Your brain has learned about these micro signals and must picks up on vibes.
Just describe the situation
I can’t speak for OP, but in my case I could tell how “bad” a day was likely to be based on small clues that most people wouldn’t see. Tiny things like a slight increase in the pitch of a parent’s sigh, how quickly keys were put down as they came through the door, the position of their shoulders as they picked up a dinner fork. How the almost invisible deepening of the creases around their mouth and eyes matched the increasing tension in the air. Instantly knowing by the timbre of the footfalls climbing the stairs if I needed to pretend to be asleep.
Growing up in an abusive, trauma-inducing household fosters a talent to sense the proverbial “blood in the water,” and how likely it is to send the sharks into a frenzy.
Hello my friend.
CPTSD & HP => knowing what people are going to do. But if you act on it people think you’re some sort of stalker, creep or manipulator.
Sorry for the thread necromancy, but what is HP in this context?
Haut Potentiel or High Potential (I guess) in english.
People who can think in a specific way (some say treelike, or like a statistics cloud, getting access to information, but not only “if a gives b, and b gives c, then a gives c”) and have relatively high intelligence.
No problem about the grave digging 😁
Having to eat has to be my least favorite part of neourdivergence. “Oh, it’s been a few hours since eating and I really want to eat”
This cited phenomenon is not a particularly neurodivergent one. Pretty much everyone sees the train wrecks coming.
If you are neurodivergent, not everything about your life and how your mind works is defined by that.
Object permanence has to be me least favorite part of neurodivergence. “Oh I walked away from that tree but I know it’s still there.”
I call it Cassandra syndrome, and it fucking sucks.
You know why it is true? because a fucking neurotypical decoded that she deserves the title because she was married to one. No relationship with the myth, just that she hated her autistic partner and wanted to be the victim.
I think the actual worst part about this is that pattern recognition isn’t supposed to be a neurodivergent thing. Pattern recognition is like a built in feature in humans, but most people have it beat out of them in school
Pattern recognition is like a built in feature in humans, but most people have it beat out of them in school
Like so much else, it’s a trained skill. You don’t have pattern recognition beaten out. You just aren’t so heavily invested in a subject that you get it stamped in.
It’s not as though we’re born with the ability to hear Morse Code, for instance. You have to develop an ear for it.
It’s also a double edged sword, especially when you queue in on a pattern without understanding the reason behind it. Plenty of patterns are purely coincidental.
Picking out a “message” in a series of sounds doesn’t mean the dish washer is talking to you.
God help you if you need to convey the pattern you recognize though, then language as a tool will escape your grasp
I use a lot of hand gestures to make up for it. It does not help at all.
I’m not autistic, but I hate it when other people just ignore the obvious things. Like come on. Is this the result of evolution? How did your lineage survive for this long?
The worst part is when you try to gently warn people, and they look at you like you’re the crazy one—only for the exact thing you predicted to happen five minutes later.
give an example?
I joined a large friend group that had been together for 7 or so years. There was a person that I noticed would tell different people slightly different versions of stories. Normally I’d dismiss these as white lies but I noticed a pattern. The person in question saw relationships as transactional and I highly suspected that these white lies revealed a much deeper penchant for emotional manipulation.
I tried to warn some people that I thought I could trust within the friend group, but this upset some people and I had the step way back. After all, who is the new person to come into this group and fuck things up? I kept my mouth shut and out of the drama as I had to watch this person build a giant rift within the group.
Thankfully a few people had finally remembered the warning I had given years before and started comparing notes on the stories this person had told everyone. In the end I was vindicated when people started confronting the lies, but a lot of people had to go through therapy for the years of suffering that person caused in the meantime. I’m not giving too many details, but it got bad: suicide attempts, cops, legal battles. I had to just sit there and watch it all.
