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Cake day: September 13th, 2024

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  • Back in school, when we were starting to learn english as a foreign language, we were explicitly taught, to answer a “how do you do?” with another “how do you do?” and not to actually respond with how we were doing.

    As for the names, I also struggle with that. People greet me like that all the time and I never know, if they are trying to be extra friendly (maybe even because they actually like me and want to show it?), or need to single me out, because they greeted others before, or catch my attention because I’m usually somewhere else with my mind. Or it’s just the way they do it and has absolutely nothing to do with me as a person. Also it seems to be mostly women who call me by my name, now that I think about it. I always just reply “hi” without a name, because I always fear to get it wrong and that stresses me out. Though I think my tone changes depending on the person and how happy I am to see them. Sometimes I think about if I should try responding with their name, to let them know I’m actually happy to see them, because I think it actually does make me feel good, when someone I like greets me using my name. But as many others here, I don’t really know, if it actually makes a difference for them.