The cynicism is not based on nothing. I don’t crave being toxic. I crave intellectual challenge and general positivity.

The cynicism is born of experiencing reality. Particularly one where I’m a neurological minority among incurious people, people who engage in motivated reasoning, and people so motivated by avarice that they simply lie.

The following quote applies to my offline experience in an allistic dominated world: “I was ashamed of myself when I realised life was a costume party and I attended with my real face” ― Franz Kafka

I now simply play the game now, and fairly well. I still hate it though.

Online, I don’t need to worry about playing allistic games or worry about catastrophic social consequences of being my blunt and honest self. I can dissect things, and try my best to learn how far the ugliness goes.

I’ve gotten better about this but yeah I used to do it constantly.

Here’s an interesting example you just gave me. I don’t think that and never said as much.

It was more or less said when you stated the very premise of “Soft Skills are hard to teach”. But sure, I took a very unnuanced interpretation, that’s my bad.

Now to the example. It’s extremely frowned upon in a conversation to affirm what others think, when they haven’t explicitly expressed so themselves. Specially when the other person is still a complete stranger. It could be interpreted as hostility or an attempt to misrepresent other people’s positions in order to attack them.

I’m not on lemmy to practice soft skills. To be clear: I’m not exactly hostile, just cynical and impatient.

Humans literally evolved highly social minds entirely to rapidly develop soft skills.

You think most people lack soft skills because you placed additional effort into developing them and likely had the head start most average human beings get. Its rare that people start at zero, but some very much do.

I did.

Hard skills are easier to teach,

Hard skills are either easy to teach or virtually impossible. It depends on the person. That isn’t to say most people are incapable of learning: its that most people are fundamentally incurious or unmotivated, and teaching an incurious person is fucking impossible unless money is on the line for them.

while soft skills are very hard.

Most people have very little difficulty getting very good at soft skills very early on in life. If you haven’t learned them, you are in a minority. These two are likely in a minority psychological/neurological profile.

I can’t really tell you much more about it without outing my embarrassing and likely in a few cases socially obvious questions.

The most I can say is giving it some details about an encounter or series of encounters and asking it to clarify if it thinks some or other courses of action are reasonable or socially acceptable or advisable. And whether I’m imagining things or if there was “something there” if someone may or may not be flirting for instance.

And some other things that I will not be revealing here.

TBH, I’m an autistic male and using AI for dating advice has 100% helped me get laid (still working on a stable partner though). Not because its super smart, but because I can rapidly ask multiple questions I’d be otherwise unable to ask a human without incredible and crippling embarrassment and get answers that are “good enough” if a tad broad or obvious probably to most people.

But as a broad trend, I’ll admit that is a little worrying.

I would be so happy to be living in a part of Canada.

I know that this is all just theater to just destroy any semblance of free speech and privacy on the internet but if I’m completely honest I also don’t even understand people who freak out about kids looking at porn. Like, I get protecting children obviously from predators (fucking Roblox), but also I saw hardcore porn on the internet super early when I was like 8 and the only trauma I ever felt was the fear of being caught looking at it by my parents, who were otherwise pretty chill about me seeing really violent media.

And before me and the internet, kids were looking at their grampa’s/dad’s porn magazines or finding it in the woods or getting some 18 year old to buy it for them. It was harder but I’m telling you they found it.

I feel like a bigger concern for kids right now is microplastics, lead poisoning, and climate change and you don’t see nearly the same hysteria about that shit in mainstream politics.

Yeah that’s fucked. If you are going to let people say “No Christians” or “No Muslims” then “No Zionists” ought to be allowed.