• Eternal192@anarchist.nexus
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    1 day ago

    I’m like that with my girlfriend because ADHD makes her spout nonsense most of the time and i just started ignoring her and i told her that, here’s an example “we have a cucumber in the fridge did you see it? It’s huge, it’s massive go look at the cucumber” sure hon, or just “penis, you penis” while watching a movie for no other reason than to say something, so i’m just like i know you are here but i’m ignoring everything you say unless we are actively talking and even then there will be random words thrown in just for good measure.

    • BougieBirdie@piefed.blahaj.zone
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      20 hours ago

      My wife has ADHD, and I have wicked social anxiety. This is a constant struggle.

      It’s tough because what she seems to want most is an active listener, but I literally can’t keep up with all of her conversations. It’s caused friction before because she’ll tell me she’s told me something I’ve forgotten and accused me of not listening to her - but I just can’t absorb everything that’s being said. Especially when she gets excited and I’d swear she can speak nonstop without pausing for breath.

      At the end of the day I view a lot of her speech as like… vocal stimming. And I get easily overstimulated.

      It’s a communication issue, and when miscommunicating both sides have a part to play. We’ve worked out a system where if she has something important to say she’ll clearly ask me to listen so I can stop what I’m doing and pay attention. And likewise, if she’s going too fast I’m allowed to interrupt her to ask her to slow down.

    • aliceitc@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      1 day ago

      This is at the same time very very cute but I can also see it being a bit tiring. If she’s aware of it and she’s ok with it, I guess there’s no harm in what you’re doing…

      Not gonna lie, I laughed so much at

      we have a cucumber in the fridge did you see it? It’s huge, it’s massive go look at the cucumber

      💯💯💯