I mean, I kind of want this, just self-hosted on my own server

Not who you’re responding to, but part of me really wants Octopi to be available on F-Droid and open source

Can definitely relate. I do have that fear of a future partner claiming I am weaponizing incompetence or that they are doing the majority of the invisible labor. Turns out just managing autism and neurodivergency is a whole lot of invisible labor.