I’m alright.

It took a lot of work to get here, though. People usually act less than friendly toward me, and it took me a long time to understand that it’s because of a vibes thing that I can’t really do much about.

It would be nice if I could find people who try to do better than surface-level judgments, but I’m not going to let others opinions and behaviour toward me affect my self esteem anymore.

This was the only thing that worked for my wife’s dad. Bro lost like 250lbs.

I hope you get the results you’re after and the new habits to make it work.

WE NEED

TO PROTECT CHILDREN

not really sure this is an apology at all.

This is more like a story about how your coach has also criticized your communication skills, but it seems like he did that for different reasons. I think he kind of sucks in that story, because he is literally a coach and should be giving you helpful, actionable feedback instead of the nebulous disapproval. Your friend, is a different situation and I don’t think you should confuse what your coach has said with what your friend has said.

Try to think about why you are apologizing. Is it because you feel bad about the situation? Is it because you want to ‘fix a problem’?

Your friend has expressed to you useful feedback on why they feel like they do, and what you’ve written kind of proves their point a bit.

They got the ai agent to send the password reset onetime code to a new address that they supplied through the chat.

Effectively hijacking the pw reset and its safeguard. The users password did not need to be known

No.

Bad meme. And I’m gonna be blunt, because you know why.

I get what you’re shooting for but format, phrasing and composition is all cringe here.

Keep trying though. Design is hard.

Yeah, thats what I use with uBlock for Youtube. I can’t get Invidious to be stable enough.

No no no, it’s not a central database at all. It’s distributed globally across many geographic locales, nothing central about it. Lots of redundancies too, it’s available everywhere all of the time. :S

One decision we can be clear about—we are not building a central face database

… because of course we aren’t. We already have one and it’s AMAZING.

I venture into society, on average, once per week. To Costco. It takes all of my energy in that single visit and then I need a week to recover.

I’m semi-joking, but I’m really not.

I don’t think that applies to OP’s question but if that’s your situation then I’m sorry you have to deal with that.

An adult person does not tend to seek a diagnosis unless they are trying to understand and get a grip on something that they have struggled with their whole life.

Whatever the mood is in the room for this announcement, you should understand that your brother has probably lived most of his life feeling like he is not understood or accepted by the regular world and the people in it… in a painful way.

My god, I really don’t like Gnome.

Practice reacting to things that I imagine people might say to me.

Facial expressions and body language are hard to remember to do.

Yeah, not great. I think if you understand the difference between what is a disparaging kind of ‘joke’ and something thats actually humorous, then you can just judge this.

“Fucking cringe.” And just walk away. Don’t accept any ‘explanation’ of why it’s funny. Let them become upset by your reaction, if necessary. “Nah, we’re not going to be making fun of disabled people. You’re on your own.”

I think I understand, despite not personally being one to take a position over how to express that concept. It seems like it might be more meaningfully applied by yourself as you can clearly relate the distinction along the severity gradient of autism.

Those sound like healing activities :)

I broke the phone habit in a couple of ways, if it helps you to hear:

First was to stop using apps when a mobile format website existed. It makes it more inconvenient to use, which is what you want in this case, so you get annoyed and disengage.

Second, you can use the content filter to custom block the sites like Lemmy that might be part of your habitual phone use that happens whn you’re bored. You want to use that boredom feeling as a signal to do one of the more productive activities instead. If you have iPhone, try turning the adult filter on then add a custom domain “crazypeople.online”

Third is to decide on some time to power it off and put it away out of sight. No notifications or text messages to check if the phone is off. I’ve got a spot in the laundry room that I leave my phone powered down. I continued these practices after recovering, and tomorrow I will still power off my phone and put it away. You don’t want that thing’s psychological hooks pressing your buttons even once you’re healthy again.

Maybe… but I feel like forcing people to do things doesn’t often yield the best results. I do agree that consistent and positive interaction would be meaningful.

Culturally, we need people to set the examples and to lead correctly. And that’s adults, whether its teachers or parents, including and accepting the autistic kid and encouraging the neurotypical kids to be the same.

If that’s in line with what you’re saying, then we’re on the same page.

I get that and have been there. The worst kind of burnout will still force you down and out irrespective of your priorities and obligations. Take care of your self.

I had the severe burn out that happens when you ignore the root cause and keep trying to push through it until you’re incapacitated by what can effectively be described as a brain injury.

My burn out left me feeling concussed for months. I lost a lot in that condition and I was forced to take medical leave from work that eventually became permanent. Fortunately, I was able to recover and rebuild myself into a, mentally, much healthier person.

1. Not a lot. I would lay in bed for half of the day, listening to the various aircraft fly over my home. I got to know their routines. I made the mistake of spending time online, and that delayed my recovery I’m sure of it. At the time… Reddit, Youtube, Netflix, gaming… all that stuff got in the way.

2. I was only able to convince someone that I was well enough to start a new job after 5 months of trying to heal. To be honest, it was closer to a year before I was really actually functioning alright, but I was down to the last few hundred dollars of savings that I had left and had to work or would have lost my truck and home. In a way I think I’m still recovering several years later (in a good way), but I knew I was better once I felt like I wasn’t trapped by the same old problems that led me to burn out in the first place… and that came a while after I was ‘functional’ and capable of working again.

3. Brain rest is what will heal you. Scrolling socials is not brain rest, its brain work consuming (mostly) garbage information. Watching shows or videos is not brain rest. Gaming is not brain rest. If you do these things, set very short and strict limits on it. If you can manage to not do them, that will help a lot. Brain rest is meditation. Brain rest is cleaning your home and keeping you hygiene up. Brain rest is reading a book. It’s a light hobby, like drawing or tending to plants. It’s writing in a journal by hand. Get exercise, it will speed up healing.

Meditation, once you get the hang of it, is like bathing your brain in cool cucumber water. It is a skill you can learn to protect yourself from burnout in the future.