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I’ve wasted a ton of money on joycons at this point and frankly I don’t mind not getting reimbursed if the fines actually stopped companies from shit practices. I don’t think this is a big enough fine to stop Nintendo from charging a stupid amount for something that is known not to last.

They are, but they’re not typically filmed with the express intent to post online

I mean it’s think the chestnut is saying, “you don’t look autistic” or just saying like, no that’s not true! Or reassuring them they’re “not like other autistics.” Basically anything that treats the diagnosis as inherently bad

I think about this a lot. But it’s also so hot out and I know these (individual) guys aren’t getting paid enough. If I call them in for starting up half an hour early, I feel like an asshole because the alternative is them doing more work in the heat of the day. You know their employers aren’t gonna hire more guys to get it done quicker before the heat becomes oppressive or dangerous.

But also let me fucking sleep I’m dying here

Ooh and the question specifically mentions “someone else.” By the time I scrolled down enough, I forgot about that.

Anyway I have both considered offing myself, and on a night where a dude scared me on a dark street I wished I had a gun. I guess that’s not the same as wanting to shoot him. I just wanted to have something that would make him as scared of me as I was of him. I just wanted to be left alone.

Why wouldn’t it?

The reason is to get a notification it’s coming. The reason is because I’m so fried surviving, I don’t have the mental energy to spend on calculating the due date and then changing it by a day due to trends I’d also have to track. I barely remember to log it in an app, there’s no way I’m logging it on a calendar, and then keeping track of that paper for multiple months or years to track trends. bleeding through my pants at work is worse to me than the spyware. Being a woman is hard enough. Blame the Spyware, not the women.

Ugh now that my husband works in fire alarm systems, he has become someone who thinks I would want to learn about them voluntarily. Every flipping building we enter, “ooh, not to be annoying, but look at this! They have xyz!”

Have you ever noticed the smoke detectors in line at Disney? Because I’ve been forced to. And they must have gotten special permits or something because they’re outside of regular code rules. God bless him.

Wouldn’t that mean no one can visit your home, though? Or if they did, that they’d have to leave their cells/ tablets outside?

I don’t have a source. My nutritionist told me this at an appointment this week, and I didn’t think to ask for one. Honestly would love for it to be disproved

Lol I had not seen it, but I feel seen by it!

Hey, so I have ADHD, and so does my husband, neither of us are medicated. We both cope well outside the house, but inside, our home is a freakin mess. I have so many systems but still, cleaning, maintaining, and cooking are just too much for us to stay on top of. I’m a lot better with systems, and prioritization, so managing the house falls to me but we both give each other a lot of grace. My number one tip is taking responsibility. It is painful for me when he says he’s going to take care of something and then he doesn’t. I would so much rather him recognize : " hey, I know i said i would take the trash out, but I’m realizing it’s a task I’m failing at week after week. Could we trade? I will scour the bathroom if you can take the cans to the curb?" Or “could you help me come up with a system?”

What almost killed our marriage was him saying, “why are you freaking out about this, it’s just the trash?” And then the next week saying, “I’ll get to it in the morning, I promise, I’m just too tired to do it tonight.” It killed my ability to trust him or his word, and really eroded our marriage. It’s like he was in denial about his ADHD, and didn’t realize that by having this optimistic and unrealistic views of his abilities, he was letting me down twice - once with neglecting to help, and second by denying my experience, and lying about what he was going to do. He felt like he still deserved the benefit of the doubt and kindness and grace, but after the 5th time not completing a task, I felt like that behavior and expectation was him forcing our relationship into parent/ child rather than equal partnership.

I’m not suggesting having a child if you’re not ready!!! But I will say fatherhood is where my ADHD mate shines. He still doesn’t clean, his hair is on the sink after shaving everytime, but he’s an amazing father. The house is a mess, but the toddler is well fed (he makes creative dinners), well exercised (he has way more energy than me) and he has amazing creative problem solving to encourage her to go along with his directions. I believe this is where his ADHD super powers come through. Also now that we’re on a more strict schedule for the toddler, he weirdly doesn’t miss taking the trash out.

Again, not suggesting adding a child, I’m just saying maybe you’re not going to get better at the things you’re having trouble with, but maybe you’ll find other stuff that you are good at that makes your partner’s life easier making it feel more like a partnership. Also, we’ve done a lot of couples therapy. We went from the brink of divorce, me feeling like he wasn’t pulling his weight at all, and him feeling like I’m way too critical and mean to feeling like a solid team expecting a second kid (on purpose).

Good luck, man. ADHD fuckin sucks.

Micro dosing THC, like if a dose is 10 (mg?) I eat 2.5. Not enough to feel the effects at all, weed usually makes me so stupid and totally unproductive, but weirdly, a small amount focuses me. I’m like just zoned enough to not over think anything, but totally present enough to complete everything i need to do, well.

Beyond that, no breaks, no eating, just coffee. I can get a ton done, the bit of hunger also focuses me. In this mode, I just let the productivity flow, and don’t try to necessarily stay on exact task. If half way through organizing all the toys in the house I remember to write a thank you note, I just get the supplies out, push a clear space in the toys and bang it out. Trying to ignore the impulses and stay perfectly on task just burns me out. Anyway, I get right back to the toys, and the letter is addressed with a stamp, so I end up with a bunch of tasks done.

I absolutely crash at the end of the day, feel sick from not eating with the caffeine, and my body hurts from zero breaks. But if I eat or sit at all I’m done for the day.

I also do this but apparently this can be a contributing factor to developing diabetes if you’re already at risk.

I mean no offense, but some Dr’s are wild. It’s not just babies who are faking pain, but also women and POC. My husband was given the same pain meds/schedule for a cut on his thumb that I was for childbirth with a second degree tear. He was given even better pain meds the time we went in for a “mystery pain” in his chest that they could find no evidence of.

Or introverted! My family of ADHDers will not only interrupt over last word, but sometimes two people will complete their full sentences at the same time. We’re all on top of it. No worries if you didn’t finish your thought because we changed topics, just say the sentence when there’s a nice lull 40 minutes later with no introduction at all and we’re all back in. No one ever feels interrupted or has hurt feelings, we just are glad of each other’s company and love to get together. All the husbands are really sensitive about it and take it very personally, but my brother just brought in a long term gf who fits right in! She also interrupts with the most interesting things! We love her!

My husband hates being interrupted, but if i don’t jump in, he will talk for 15 minutes or longer with no breaks about something whether I’m interested or not. So he rambles and I interrupt and we both think the other has poor awareness. We love long car drives because there’s plenty of time for both

Right, but the idea is that most people under 18 haven’t already started smoking because it’s illegal and inconvenient. So you just keep that ball rolling for anyone who hasn’t started.

One important list I have is Things lent Lent to me, lent from me. Money is something I need to write down or I will NEVER remember. I mean I will forget I lent a thousand dollars. I have forgotten. But then I found my list! Unfortunately I just found an envelope labeled $1,210. But now it has $1010 in it. I know I lent out the thousand to my mom for a quick thing and she paid me back, but then what happened to the 200? Did I accidentally give it to her with the 1k? Did I take it out for something else?

If I don’t write it down, I genuinely will not remember.