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I read about a scientific study where they had buckets of different weights but you couldn’t tell the weight by looking at it.
They had people picking up the buckets and watching other people pick up buckets, then asked them to guess how much each bucket weighed.
People tended to overestimate the weight of their own buckets and underestimate the weight of other people’s buckets.
I tried not to do that.
Big one was stop correcting all non-logical parroting and not complaining when people put carton, pet or paper into the normal waste instead of correct recycling bin next to it…
A big one for me was practising at smiling and making my voice sound pleasant. Another one was nodding my head. I don’t know what it means, and neither do other people, but nodding at people often makes them more polite for some reason. As does bowing slightly, and blinking.
Depending on context, nodding can mean “yes”, “hello”, “I agree with you”, “I acknowledge you”, and “thank you”. The common thread is agreeableness, which disposes others to feel seen and understood, hence a polite demeanour in response.
Working remote has mostly solved this problem. The thing is, most people at work do not understand that working remote is what makes them palatable to me and me palatable to them. So they keep wondering why I do not want to go to the yearly company retreat. I think they are fine people to work with and probably even good people in general but I wish to be colleagues and only colleagues. I don’t want to share about my life outside of work and have little interest in theirs.
I applied to a job that advertised itself as a neurodivergent-affirming workplace. I didn’t even think about including this in job searches til I stumbled upon it but from now on I won’t settle for less.
