I was not raised in a socially and emotionally healthy family, but I have to imagine that there is always some social tension in a child’s life, even if they have a friend group, right?
I was not raised in a socially and emotionally healthy family, but I have to imagine that there is always some social tension in a child’s life, even if they have a friend group, right?
Well, it’s complicated :) I believe the psychology defines several important phases in this regard (I’ll wing them from the top of my head). First is the discovery of boundary me/not me for the newborns. That’s when they realise their mom is not part of them. Then there’s simple us/not us. That’s when we’re awkward about people outside our immediate family. Then there’s the teenage rebellion phase, where we discover “my group” of people with similar interests. The “mom, it’s not a phase” time. And the final, for the rest of one’s life, is the phase of discovering “me as an individual”.
So to your answer, yes, everybody feels they don’t fit, but for many it’s easier because they can use their social skills while some are “blessed” to figure out in hard mode.